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I seem to have started my mistake wisdom training early in life. My first real boyfriend was a very handsome, intelligent young man. Unfortunately, he seemed to be the start of a long line of a certain ‘type’ of man that I seem to fall for. I really can’t say any of my relationships were with an unintelligent partner, but that may be the best thing I can say about them.
Mostly, this type of person is very charismatic, varying stages of unmotivated, self centered, lazy, immature, is addicted to drugs or alcohol and generally really was too into himself to really care about anyone else.
So back to the first boyfriend. He had dropped out of high school and wasn’t working, so obviously my young self was interested. He was the first ‘one’ and he thought he was the worlds gift to women. I had nothing to compare with, so I just had to take his word for it. LOL in hindsight I know he wasn’t bad but was not the best.
His goal was to get a job with the CPR. If he got it and made it through his probation period he was “IN” and could not be fired, that is the power of the union. What a goal. Eventually he did get a job, but alas, he could not make it through the probationary period.
I had moved away to go to college, and he decided he should come and live with me. I was pretty naïve and could not see that I was being used. I did not want to kick him out. I didn’t want to call the police on him because he had been in trouble in the past. Eventually my mom came to visit. I told her what was going on and she helped me. She packed up all of his stuff and drove him to the city limits. Wow what a woman she was!!
A pattern you will see throughout my life, I did not see until afterward that I was being used, he was cheating on me, and he stole money from me. I was even naïve enough to carry his ‘caps’ in my purse because he “did not have pockets or a purse”. Caps at the time were bottle caps filled with hash oil. So, if the police caught us with them, I would be the one charged with trafficking. What an amazing first lesson on my Mistake Wisdom path.
As you will see, I did not learn much Mistake Wisdom from this experience.
{{There is one of my relationships that was with an intelligent, motivated, kind, caring, unusually nice man. I married him and after 7 years I divorced him and broke his heart. We should have remained friends instead of getting married, but I was not very far along on my mistake wisdom path then. As I like to say, in hindsight, I figured I could do worse and I was right. That is coming up next.}}